Why not just look into someone's eyes and say "you look great!" period!
or say "you look great, you must be taking good care of yourself?" or "you look great you must be feeling good"
I love many people who are "overweight" by western popular culture and who are beautiful! Most of the women I spent time with in North Africa would be considered "fat" here, whereas there, the standards of beauty include fuller bodied and even robust women.
Yes, obesity is a cultural problem and health issue in the USA, but many people who are full-bodied and rounder suffer so much trying to fit a norm that is sick, yes, sick! We all know by now, how much digital manipulation goes into the ultra-thin models for fashion magazines. We know about the unrealistic proportions of the Barbie doll and the eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia.
Some extra pounds is not obesity, there is a big difference and as a culture we need to stop buying into the fashion and diet weight loss industry's tactics! I have met people who literally will "not be friends with anyone who is more than a few pounds overweight", saying "it just grosses me out". This is beyond judgmental, it is sad.
Billions of dollars get spent on weight loss and diet programs that don't work in the long run - just exploit people by making an underweight ideal that is abnormal and difficult to impossible for most people to attain, especially people who are rounder in their beauty. I use the word beauty but could replace it with handsome for the males, though this culture is much less judgmental towards full-bodied men.
Beauty comes in many shapes and sizes. Even us women ourselves need to broaden our perception of beauty, and not judge each-other by the cultural ideals that pervades the media.
"You look great" "have you lost weight"... I also heard this often at a time in my life where I struggled financially and wasn't eating enough. I also wasn't good about letting people in and asking for help, though now, I would.
Again someone says, "You look great" "have you lost weight", I didn't feel like I got a compliment, and I was reminded again how hungry I was, and how being hungry kept me up the night before.
I wish I would've said "YES, I LOST MORE WIEGHT, I"M HUNGRY, MY BODY FAT IS UNHEALTHILY LOW, WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS LOOKING GREAT??Will you get me lunch???! I did talk about this with some of the women who said it, and think they have a better understanding of the cultural illness that still has women thinking "you can't be too thin".
I also have been a few pounds heavier than was good for me and went through hating myself and feeling like I was disgusting. Though, far from obese, I didn't like how it slowed me down. I didn't loss the weigh until I started to love myself exactly as I was, which lead to things like dancing, yoga and hiking and enjoying moving then, the weight shed easily.
So maybe the next person you notice looking good you might just say "you are beautiful, I love you!"
Better yet find the beauty in everyone around you and speak to that!
You are all beautiful, and I love you. Namaste, Christina